Mental Health Bewareness Week

It’s the middle of May, which means that it’s time for the joyous festive period of Mental Health Awareness Week.  The most wonderful time of the year, where everyone and their dog, takes it upon themselves to ‘raise awareness’ and to ‘destigmatise’ mental health (or mental illness if that’s their tipple).  A time where everyone can be ‘open’ and ‘show that they care’.

A time where many people with lived experience strongly consider turning off their social media feeds in order to escape the sheer banality of it all.  I’ve been watching the rise of #MHAW over the past few years with equal amounts of incredulity, rage, horror and disappointment.  It’s a great opportunity to actually get some movement on things – that is wasted on an annual basis.

As you wade through a lot of well-meaning but ultimately infuriating ‘mental-health-ology’ – here are some species of ‘ally’ to keep a look out for in the #MHAW wilds and wilderness, and mark of your #MHAW-nonsense bingo card…

The Phone Number Post

Allyus Telephonus

Sightings of this species are rare, though evidence of it’s presence is commonplace as it’s cries that resemble a phoneline are often heard.  This is the thing that gets me the most incandescent the most quickly.  It’s typically a post that reads ‘National Suicide Helpline’ – complete with a phone number.  Harmless yes?  No, because in the UK as it happens, WE DON’T HAVE A NATIONAL SUICIDE HELPLINE!  And this is toxic because people who post this stuff obviously don’t know that, and the people in need who see it – are likely to feel misled.  One small mercy this year, is that the number most often seen on this type of post is for PAPYRUS – Prevention of Young Suicide, a wonderful charity that I’m honoured to have worked with over several years, but even this is not the whole story – as they are set up to help those under 35, and their HopeLineUK is not manned 24/7.

The Celebrity Sighting

Allyus Famous

Noted for it’s bright plumage and loud call, this species runs on hot air, but thrives in the plentiful feeding grounds of national news networks.  Look for Ruby Wax to slither back onto your screens or airwaves, peddling her own toxic brand of mindfulness and pathology.  Look for Clarke Carlisle, Frank Bruno, or some other sportsman to be interviewed about why it’s so hard for men in particular to talk mental health.  Look for Stephen Fry to frustratingly back a medical model of mental illness for which there is no basis.  I do not doubt the sincerity of any of these people (except for Wax who I think has an element of self-promotion about her), I am frustrated by the fact that it’s the same celebrity narrative pushed.  As if somehow, a famous person with some mental struggles, legitimises it for the rest of us.  It also reinforces the message that because ‘it can happen to anyone’ (true), that structural, societal problems don’t need to be addressed.

Awareness Raising

Allyus Vacuous

This species is rarely seen, and descriptions by biologists vary as to it’s characteristics.  What is awareness raising at this point in the mental health narrative?  We have awareness.  So much of it in fact that #MHAW has become a widely known thing.  But what does that actually look like in practice.

Competitive Allying

This has two particularly noticeable subspecies:

1. (Allyus Hypocritus) ‘I will copy and paste this line about being an ally for those with MH issues – thus displaying the fact that empathy doesn’t factor into my public pronouncements.

2. (Allyus Gamblus) ‘I bet only my real friends will copy and paste this status about MH – thus allowing me to subtly shame those that don’t – and disregard those who post about MH outside of a prescribed week’.

Note – sometimes these two combine to create Allyus Douchebagus

Depression is a Sign of Being Too Strong For Too Long

Allyus Hydraulicus

A creature much more under threat in recent years as it’s habitat becomes overcrowded with other popular memes.  Not long ago it roamed the plains of facebook and could be sighted all year round.  It still appears in #MHAW, it’s natural breeding period.

Robin Williams

Allyus Comedicgenius

A recently discovered species, diet consists mainly of morbid curiosity and saccharine.

No.  Posting a picture of Robin Williams with platitudinous bullshit about those that smile the most being the saddest doesn’t make you an ally.

Empty Words

Allyus Politicus

Sighted all year round, this species comes out often in #MHAW and pledges action and funding.  This seductive cry is actually a clever trap to lure in vulnerable prey, which it then eats at the ballot-box – seen in plumage of all colours.

These are the primary species sighted around this time – if you spot other species or subspecies – let me know either in the comments or on Twitter (@MemyselfandCP).  I’m going down to the Winchester and waiting for all this to blow over…


8 thoughts on “Mental Health Bewareness Week

  1. I absolutely agree. Physical pain too overwhelming to articulate much else at the moment. But your perspective on privileged people offering empty headed platitudes or condescension is one I share.


  2. Hey man, just listened to the ‘Terrible, Thanks for Asking’ episode with you on and I wanted to say thanks for making me feel less alone. Although the podcast medium is very much a one way thing, it’s awesome to feel understood by just listening to someone speaking of their own struggles and solutions and finding ways through ambivalence. And the singing was just wonderful, sometimes a bit too beautiful to not distract from the spoken word 🙂 ( You’re probably familiar with ‘Right Wantonly A-Mumming’ by Sharron Kraus and friends ) I’ll be keeping an eye on your blog, keep up the good work.

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  3. Oh my goodness, thank you. The rate I feel when I see the national suicide line is fierce. Those people who just post this number like they are helping me or others with mental illness are so foolish.

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  4. hahahaha I loved this. SoI have realy got on the bandwagon of it all this year- I suppose i felt I had to, but beneath the had to, your words ring perfectly true- thank-you for this perspective, for reminding me of the job I’m trying to do and for just being human about it all xx I might run off and delete my own banal blogs and posts now- so awkward… thanks

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    1. I think one thing I maybe should have added to this piece (which I wrote last year) was that, I once believed and engaged in much of the perspectives I’ve lampooned here. I don’t think you need to beat yourself up for things you used to think. Sometimes it’s enough to say openly that you changed your mind. And if that’s the case, nobody has the right to criticise you for that.


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